Wednesday, May 27, 2009

Sex in the Christian City

It is with some hesitation that I address the matter of sex in this blog. Even though God gave me a message once before, I am still tentative to address sex again now for a number of reasons.

First, the subject is spoken about with great frequency in the Christian world; what can I add that hasn't already been said? Also, what more can I say now than what was written in the other message?

Writing frankly about sex can also offend the sensibilities of some. The enemy can even use the subject to tempt and titillate those who already struggle.

Nevertheless, it has been on my mind and in spite of the aforementioned issues, sex is worthy of Christian discussion, if for the mere reason that we need to be reminded of the pitfalls that sexual sin provides so that we may be vigilant to avoid them.

Also, it is a true saying that there is no better way to stop the works of the enemy than to bring them into the light, and so this blog shall endeavor to do so in order to help as many of us as possible reach for the standard God requires.

First, let us establish that God is a God of purity.

Sex outside of marriage, and indeed merely lustfully desiring it, is clearly forbidden in God’s Word (Matthew 5:28).

God created sex and it is to be enjoyed, but He intended this type of intimacy to be solely between two people within the safe confines of a committed, lifelong marriage.

Let us be clear that the rampant promiscuity, adultery, divorce/remarriage, and homosexuality that go on throughout the world were never God’s original intent.

God’s plan was that, "...a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh" (Genesis 2:24). Man, at the direction of Satan and his demons, has distorted this purpose and thus we have societies who do not reflect the wholesomeness of God's original creation.

Secondly, while God is pure, Satan and his demons are creatures of FILTH who want us to join them in their loathsome mire. One of the easiest ways for them to draw us there is to titillate our flesh with forbidden sexual desires and acts.

As our society quickly continues to unravel into a cesspool of sexual perversions, many of us Christians are becoming more and more desensitized to its infiltration into our own lives.

Nowadays, a person can easily be bombarded by sexual sin through all forms of media, including the movies we watch, the books and magazines we read, the websites we surf, and even through the billboards on our highways.

Seeing sensual or provocative photos and moving pictures, hearing sexually-related conversations and jokes, or reading provocative stories, among many other things, has become common place in many Christians’ lives.

Many of us right now are so often exposed to this sort of filth that we do not experience a check in our spirits that it's wrong; exposure to sexual perversion has become way too normal in our lives. We have become numb to it.

Much of the fruit produced by this exposure reveals itself through our own words and deeds. We emulate and practice that which we take in.

Think about the things you think, do and say. Are you acting provocatively? Are you seeking to engage in sexual activities? Are you dressing immodestly? If you are doing these things, what do you think is motivating you? Does any of it have to do with the media you are ingesting? Who is whispering in your ear? Is it the voice of God, or the enemy?

If you are taking in all of the filth the media has to offer and not praying or reading your Bible, surely it’s not God’s voice leading you into sexual sin. It’s a lot easier to be lured in by it if you aren’t taking in and ingesting the Word of God which is the bread of life (John 6:48, John 1:1-14) as well as praying each day. It’s hard to seek the impure and the pure at the same time.

Another fruit of our desensitization is that many Christians are dressing in provocative and sexually alluring ways. What's happened to our modesty? Do we really want to look "sexy"? Do we really want to draw others to lust? Are we so vain that we want others to offend God and desire us physically against His wishes?

The problem is that so many Christians are fully accustomed to the world’s ways, so much so that we don't even know the difference between modesty and immodesty. Again, we have been desensitized. The slippery slope of immodesty has been greased and a large number of people who call themselves Christians are sliding right down it.

So what's the solution? How do we turn the tide of sexual impurity in our own lives and thus help the Church to do so in a corporate way?

In this question we have the first answer: each one of us must start with him or herself. It's time we all take the matter of sexual purity before the Lord in individual prayer. Each of us needs to ask God, "Lord, have I been desensitized in this area? Are my attitudes and morals with regard to sex in tune with you? How can I meet your high moral standard?”

Also, each one of us needs to discern how and why we have been desensitized. At least part of the reason, in my view (what I'm about to say could take up an entire additional message, maybe a book) is that many of us are not filled with the Holy Spirit.

Yes, we believe. Yes, we have been baptized in water. But many of us have not been baptized with fire, the type of fire that changed Peter from a spiritual showoff and coward to a humble, powerful man of God. If you’d like to know how to take that next step, take a look at my video "Being Filled with the Spirit Means Speaking in Tongues".

Now back to our main point. Once a person sincerely asks God to bring himself in line with God's Word with regard to any issue, God will very quickly pull out the stops to help him figure out how to do so. In this next step more often than not we find God leading us to the Word of God for answers.

There one can discover that God forbids that we see the nakedness of anyone other than our spouses (see Genesis 9:19-27, Leviticus 18:6-19, 2 Samuel 11), that sex outside of marriage is forbidden (Acts 15:29), that even entertaining lustful desires when one is not married is forbidden (Matthew 5:28), and that being a Christian calls for dressing and living modestly (1 Peter 3:1-3).

When you've determined from God’s Word that the area of sex (or of any other sin) is a weakness in your life, don't ignore it and think that it will go away; stand up against it.

I want everyone who reads this to clearly understand, including myself, that if you are struggling with sexual sin there is WITHOUT QUESTION at least one demonic spirit, probably more than one, at the door of your mind directly involved in enticing you to sin. You must tell that spirit, and needless to say, all of the spirits who are tempting you, to leave you in the name of Jesus. You must bind those spirits and cast them out (Matthew 18:18, Mark 16:15-18).

Many of us, dare I say, most of us, are trying to fight this battle through attempting to be more disciplined, but this is not enough. We must also fight and rid ourselves of the demons behind the sin.

Many of us don't want to do this, but I am telling you POINT BLANK that if we don't, we will not succeed in becoming free of sexual sin. The demons of sexual sin are just too powerful once they have woven themselves into our lives for us to allow them to stay and expect to live above the fray.

Demons of sexual sin must be cast out. If they're not, they can and will hide for a while waiting to attack when any moment of weakness presents itself. I probably don’t need to remind anyone of how clever they can be.

Church, it's time we "batten down the hatches" as they say and close the door on sexual sin in our lives.

In this ever darkening world we need to be increasingly vigilant to prevent ourselves from falling into lust and to prevent ourselves from leading others into it as well.

We must decide every day to flee seeing the nakedness of others, to stop participating in any sexual sin (including the use of pornography, masturbation, fornication, adultery, homosexuality, bestiality, etc.), and finally we must present ourselves to others in a modest way.

Let us strive to achieve holiness in this area and recognize during our moments of weakness that the power of God is available to us to win this battle if we will call out to the Lord and use the power of His name and His shed blood to help us fight against it.

We must embrace lives of holiness in this and all facets of life if we expect to live and move down the narrow path of righteousness (Matthew 7:13-14). Anything short of this means we are going in the wrong direction, down the broad road that leads to destruction.

I want all the readers of this blog to know that I am human, too, and am also subject to attacks from the enemy in this and all other areas of life. God is providing this article as much for my own instruction as it is for the readers who also need its council.

I encourage you all to pray for each other, as well as the rest of the Church for help in the area of sexual purity in these dark days.

If any of you would like to pray with me over the phone about this or any other issue, please feel free to contact me and we’ll set up a time. If you are struggling, let’s take the matter to the Lord and use the power He gives us to help you get free! God can and will do it! He that is free in Christ is free indeed (John 8:36)!

God bless all who endeavor to find purity in this and all other areas of their lives, A-men.


  1. So true! About various temptations.
    One pastor I heard on the radio was talking about a concept he teaches to teenagers. I think he called it "bouncing your eyes". That is, you can't help but see sexual images. That is, even if you don't go to movies with sex scenes or read porn magazines, you're going to see billboards for strip clubs, people dressed in appropriately, or flip to a channel with provocative things on it. When that happens, the viewer hasn't yet "committed adultery in his heart". It's when you let that set in and start to dwell on it and lust after it that the sin occurs. Flip the channel, avert your eyes, don't let it take root!
    This goes along with the concept in 2 Corinthians of "bringing into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ". Your thoughts determine largely what you are going to do. In the computer programming world, it's the concept of "garbage in - garbage out". If you dwell on things, they're going to affect you. So when you receive a sinful thought and think "WOW! Where did that come from?" You have two choices: Accept it and dwell on it and let that take root and turn into sin. Or refuse it, kick it out, and think on something else!
    SO useful for dealing with sexual sin, where the Proverbs say FLEE FROM IT.

  2. That's a good word...the only thing I would add to averting the eyes is also telling the devil where to go...this is a crucial step. Jesus did it and so must we...thanks for the entry!