Their demons will require you to serve them in a plethora of ways, and it's possible you will do so happily for a time as Jesus has taught us that it’s better to serve than to be served. It's only over time you begin to learn not to expect reciprocity because Jezebel/Narcissist will rarely lift a finger. And if you have a request of them, one that may not require much from them at all, that request is rarely honored.
For many victims of narcissists, the desire for respect may be in just one area: that of sleep. This one tiny request, to respect your sleep time because you desperately need it, becomes like the one law God had for Adam and Eve to keep in the garden. Broken. The Jezebel/Narcissist will completely disrespect that one boundary of yours while still demanding EVERYTHING from you. But if you could only get some more sleep it would be so much easier to be a good servant. (This disrespect is one sign, for sure, you are serving a Narcissist/Jezebel.)
And sleep deprivation is one of the most diabolical areas for the Jezebel/Narcissist’s demons to attack. Sleep is so important for anyone’s health and well being. When you are working tough hours, in order for you to perform at your best, you need your sleep.
But they (or their demons) will nibble away at your rest, cut little corners off your sleep, or see to it that you are awoken in the middle of your sleep, so that you’re never really getting proper sleep or the benefits thereof.
Demons are clever and know that the more tired they can cause you to be, the more off-kilter, the more irritable, the less focused and less productive they can make you, too. Much worse than that, as they chip away at your sleep, the healing aspects that the proper amount of rest provides are eliminated as well. This is especially true for people with compromised immune systems with conditions such as psoriasis, arthritis, eczema, hives, etc., who when they don’t get enough sleep have flare ups that can cover their entire bodies. Almost any disease of the body can find some cause related to either stress, diet or lack of sleep.
Not to mention the fact that sleep is enormously important for your mental health. As you suffer increasing amounts of sleep deprivation, your ability to deal with daily tasks and problems at hand lessens, and you can find yourself in a state of despair, depression, sadness, grief, anger, or even a desire for violence, not recognizing that all of these emotional responses are indicators that YOU NEED TO SLEEP.
The demon possessed narcissist/Jezebel in your life will not care about any of these negative outcomes for you (for themselves, yes, but not for you), even if you’ve told them in no uncertain terms that your own sleep is important. They may act for a time like they respect this boundary when you speak up about it, but soon will conveniently “forget” to suit themselves, or more so to continue to follow the leading of their demons who are trying to destroy you by any means possible.
But God is so good and His Word says he will give us peace and sleep.
It's interesting to know that the use of sleep deprivation by governments when trying to extract information from enemy combatants is well known. Once the prisoner of war is brought to a state of utter fatigue getting him to comply and reveal enemy secrets becomes much easier. Some methods for keeping the victim awake include uncomfortably cold rooms with super bright lights and loudspeakers playing loud music and sounds. As time wears on, often the victim will weaken to this torture and do anything to get some sleep without all the cold, lights and noise.
Demons also know to use fatigue to gain our compliance and are masters of the art of warfare, especially by covert means. By covert I mean that they can keep what they’re doing hidden by getting their victim to overlook his own need for proper sleep. Many people ignore the importance of sleep and just try to “muscle” through the fatigue drinking loads of caffeine or energy drinks while the negative impacts slowly compile around them. Demons might even get the victim to blame himself for being too weak in requiring “so much sleep” and that he should be able to get by on four or five hours. But the truth is, and many studies have shown this to be true, that very few humans can function on so little sleep and most need at least seven or eight hours to be at their best and to remain healthy. Sleep is just as important as diet when it comes to your physical and mental health and well being.
So if Jezebel/Narcissists can bring you to that constant state of tiredness where you’re no good to anyone, especially to God, then they have succeeded. If you’ll notice the highest numbers Jezebel/Narcissists are often assigned to people with callings on their lives. Jezebel was a murderess of the prophets during her day, and it is that same Jezebel spirit who continues her work to this day using sleep deprivation and any other means necessary to destroy God’s current prophets.
One way Narcissist/Jezebels do this is to take advantage of your giving nature and your honoring of Jesus’ words on how it is better to give than receive and that the greatest among us will be servants to all. They see that servant-like heart in Jesus’ followers as “chum in the water” for them to create yet another eunuch slave, who has no life of their own, and certainly have no time or energy to do ministry for God, while getting their victims to focus entirely on service to them. Their demons must get you to usurp your love for God and focus on them as the number one idol. And, if they can bring the deception far enough, they will get you to equate service to them as service to God.
Your heart’s desire to serve the Lord or to accomplish some mission for Him will have little or no import to the Jezebel/narcissist. Even if they say they support you with their mouths, their actions will show otherwise. They will work against it by covert means or even directly out in the open. Covertly by distraction, and out in the open by speaking against or showing negative body language toward you doing ministry.
Remember, they have no empathy for you, but more importantly that lack empathy for God (they actually hate Him), and they certainly do not want you involved in creating more followers for God. They want the followers for than themselves. Jezebel/narcissists deep down, like Satan, think they're better than God. Even when Jezebel/narcissists don’t realize how lacking in empathy they are, it simply oozes out of them. Your problems, YOUR SLEEP, the goals you have, your heart's desire for ministry are of no merit to them. How could they be when demons rule them? If they don’t lift a finger to help you in any area of your life while on the other hand expect your undying commitment to helping them, you gotta know somethings not right.
They choose the “easier, softer” way, the way of the least amount of caloric burn, and the way of putting all the load on you and others. Their energy is spent delegating and using people, not in working for themselves.
How can you tell when a Jezebel/narcissist is taken advantage verses when you might be avoiding serving others yourself? I find that when serving another person is right there is a freedom and joy in it. You feel like you're helping someone else and that God approves of it. But when people start to take advantage of you, you start to feel in your spirit that something isn’t right and you begin to resent being a continual help to this individual.
Where the devil tricks and traps us as as Christians is that when this “righteous” reaction of resentment arises, that something inside is telling you you're being used, instead of seeing it as a sign you should stop serving the Jezebel/Narcissist, you instead blame and correct yourself for being resentful, thinking that you must be wrong to have that resentment so instead you resolve to be more giving.
Satan and his demons are counting on you to do this to keep you in their trap. They want you to suppress these normal, seemingly negative, reactions so that you will remain the slave of the narcissist. (Note to housewives who think their husbands are narcs because they go to work all day and expect you to do something at home such as dishes, laundry and cooking meals: this narrative does not apply to you. Your relationship is reciprocal. You both are working to help the family). But Jezebel/narcissists want you to think that you are doing the Lord's work when you’re serving them and expect you to always “fall on your sword,” to “take one for the team,” to sacrifice yourself to their purposes while they barely lift a finger. And if they’re really clever, they can convince you that serving them is service to God. (Entire religions like Catholicism are based on this very premise.) And, if the Jezebel/narcissist can trick you so that they can keep you from your calling, like a trapped Cinderella serving the devil himself, all the better.
This goes for corporate jobs, too, which require your entire life and leave you very little time or freedom for anything else. You are a slave to them and ultimately a servant to the money they provide. You have chosen serving mammon over God, when you can only choose one. You cannot serve God AND mammon.
Meanwhile, those trapped serving Jezebel/Narcissist have been effectively removed from God’s battlefield. Jesus knew this when He said some, what for many appear to be, harsh words. Look what He had to say about ministry verses family obligations:
Ministering the gospel is a serious mission, especially in these last days. Jezebel/narcissist family members and spouses who stand in the way of that mission are being used of the devil himself to prevent the last day harvest. Whether or not they know what they’re doing is beside the point. Their demons within often compel them to do sabotaging actions with results that speak for themselves.
A Jezebel/narcissist is the epitome of the dead father Jesus spoke of in this scripture, and as Jesus also said of the pharisees, they be blind leaders of the blind, and if the blind lead the blind they shall both fall into a ditch. If a minister is trapped into a state of constant service to a "dead," "blind," Jezebel/narcissist and those demons have the minister tied up in everything except ministry, and on top of that is working a campaign that so wears out and fatigue the minister that he becomes useless, then the battle is won. The minister becomes just like the soldier who has been taken off the field by the enemy and is being tortured in that same cold, bright and loud room every day by the Jezebel/Narcissist who has him bound. Not only is he being tortured with sleep deprivation, but with a panoply of methods (such as gaslighting, crazy making, false accusation, deception, etc.). And as Samson was bound to the wheat grinding wheel and forced to push it by the Philistines who captured him, the Jezebel/narcissist ends up causing the victim to push that same metaphorical wheel in the never ending circle like a hamster in a cage. As Samson pushed that wheel round and round, he was useless to God or man, but only served the enemy Philistines’ bellies.
And again, that’s the ultimate goal of narcissist/jezebel, to have servants who treat her as a queen (or him as as a king), who cause their victims to live in constant service to themselves, with no reciprocity. If you have a ministry calling and feel you could be in a situation like this, I highly encourage you to go into prayer (and even fasting if necessary) to figure out what you should do. I'm not telling anyone to make any knee-jerk reactions, but I am saying to go into prayer and find the peace that God will give you about what He wants you to do. For many of you, this issue needs to be resolved in your life so you may serve God the way He intends, and honestly, the way you've always wanted to yourself. That Jezebel/narcissist who has stood in the way and still won't repent, is being judged right now according to Revelation 2:20. And this last days harvest is coming and the fields are ready to be reaped, but the laborers are few. Pray this through. Now may be the time to get free.
On another note, one pet peeve of mine is when actual Jezebel/narcissists use my materials to flip the script with their victims. What I mean is, they make themselves the victim when they read something like this, acting like they are the ones being forced into sleep deprivation and distraction. For example, a stay at home mom with a working husband might complain about doing what is actually her fair share at home, that it makes her tired and she needs more rest when in fact she isn't doing squat.
I know of several perfect examples of this, of men who worked hard so their wives could stay home with the kids. A couple of guys I know would come home to sinks full of dirty dishes, hampers full of dirty laundry and a gaggle of unfed kids who they would have to make dinner for. Exhausted from work, they would be hard at work at home, too, for another four or five hours. This was yet another way for the Jezebel/narcissist to wear these dads out and bring them to fatigue. And this is the true essence of Jezebel: she will not hold up her end of the bargain and will actually go into a huff if you call her on it. A spoiled prima donna of the highest order, she can stand no correction and will refuse to allow it because she is the queen and you are the peasant slave. How dare you even say something!
“Get to work!” she proclaims. “Are you tired?” she scoffs, “Cry me a river.”
But if you're in a reciprocating relationship where you both are pulling the load, be happy and blessed to be so and try to recognize and thank one another for what you do for each other.
A final passing shot is that Jezebel/narcissists can often be generous with money if they have it. They will try to pay off the victim with cash if they think they might lose him/her as a beast of burden. This, in reality, costs them very little since they have the money in abundance. They still will not do their part in any other way, though, and the victim will still be pulling the loaded proverbial cart while the Jezebel/narcissist rides on top. In this case, if the victim is not trusting God for provision and doesn't take the Holy Spirit's leadership to move on, the minister may stay trapped just in service to that money. And this is wrong, too. We must remember that God is our Provider when He is giving us deliverance from the demonic realm and that no deals with the devil need be made to ensure God's provision will come.
That’s all for today. Thanks for checking in.
This is such an awesome article on how the narcissists use all the weapons they can to bring about destruction, especially in the lives of those who are called to do the Lord’s work. We often underestimate the importance of sleep or how a lack of it can be subtly & slowly destructive. Thank you for your ministry & may God continue to bless you in the mighty name of Jesus 🙏
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